This was the response to a question someone asked me the other day (How did you meet your boyfriend?). Now, I think that it deserves it’s own post. Mostly because I don’t think people really read it because it was an answer to a question hidden within one of those “followers introduce yourselves” type dealies. I must warn you, though. It is REALLY long. I personally think it is worth the read, however. Although, I did write it. I suggest you read it and be a little open-minded.

Without further ado:

I’m just going to spend a lot of time on the “how did you meet your boyfriend” question because it’s something that I never really get to talk about, and people never really have good reactions to it. Sometimes they do. Usually they don’t. Although, you seem like the type of person that wouldn’t give a fuck, there are plenty of people reading this that probably have negative shit to say, so just allow me to rant a bit.

I met my boyfriend online. I know to a lot of people that sounds pretty sketchy, and to be perfectly honest, I wasn’t fond of the idea at first myself. In fact, it was the last thing I wanted.

We met on a forum a few years ago, so I’ve known him for quite some time (I also just feel the need to emphasize that we did not meet on tumblr). I always kind of had a thing for him, to be perfectly honest, but when I was like 15, having a boyfriend wasn’t really of interest to me anyway. I took my time in high school to just figure out who I was and learned to be okay just being me because I think that’s important. He’s actually my first boyfriend. First kiss too, if you really want to get down to it. I only mention that because this is something I take very seriously. Relationships aren’t to me what they are to most people my age and high school students. I think it’s all very special and precious and that you shouldn’t just waste your kiss on some jerkoff in the 6th grade just because that is what everyone else is doing. It should be more than that. I know a lot of people would disagree with that, but I don’t care. My point is, basically, that he really is something special. I wouldn’t have waited 18 years for a boyfriend just to waste it on someone/something that I didn’t think would last.

Anyway, it got to a point where we were so close and talked so much that I would be turning down guys in “real life” because it just wouldn’t be fair to them because despite the fact that David lives in California, he was the only person I really wanted anyway. It sounds kind of silly almost to like someone that much who you only know from talking, but that’s just how it was. In fact, in some ways I think it was better for us. We had so much time of nothing but talking, nothing but getting to know each other. I know so much about him, and he knows so much about me, and we have had an amazing chance to really, 100% like each other for who we are without the pressure of a physical relationship to skew things…if that makes sense. Everything always makes so much more sense in my head.

Even though I was really hesitant about having a long distance relationship with someone I never actually met, there was really an undeniable connection there. He made (and still makes) me feel like no one else in the world ever has or could. I am so much happier because of him. I don’t think that someone should let something that special slip away just because inconvenient or awkward/unusual circumstances. The person you’re meant to be with isn’t necessarily going to live in your city, or your state, or your country. There are like 7 billion people on this planet, it’s kind of naive to assume the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with lives within a convenient distance.

People are always wishing me the best of luck and saying things like “I hope it works out for you,” and while I appreciate the thought, it almost annoys me because I don’t think people truly understand how we feel about each other. Yes, it is hard sometimes. Yes, it is lonely sometimes. But, there has never once, even before we were truly together, a doubt in my mind that it would work for us. In fact, it almost comes easy. When you care about someone that much, that’s all that matters, and the circumstances don’t really phase you. If a long distance relationship is too hard, then maybe you don’t love that person as much as you think you do. I mean, it can’t last long distance forever, but if you can’t make it work for a period of time that you need it to until you can be together again (or in the first place), maybe you should reevaluate your relationship because while it is hard sometimes, the feelings you have definitely should overcome that and make it a lot easier. Even though he isn’t here every single day, I almost feel like he is because we talk so much and have that connection.

I think anyone in a similar situation should at least give it a chance, no matter what anyone else has to say about it. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. But, you may be passing up your soulmate if you don’t at least give it a chance.

I apologize that this turned into a really long rant/preach about long distance/internet relationships, but it is something that I really wanted to say and explain, and your question gave me the perfect opportunity.

Questions or comments? :P